Visualise to Verbalise
During my supervision today, we were talking about not overloading at work, as in actually having the time to do anything (apparently my stats were down last month, which is a tad irritating given I felt like I was working so hard! Hopefully the couple of sick days weren’t taken into account and that might help me…)
But then we started talking about ballancing home stress and work stress. Now I know that there’s a ballance, and there’s only so much of either I can function with… and when there’s stress in both areas, I don’t function so well. I’ve had it happen before with home stress hitting a point where things were starting to affect me more than usual at work… but when i came out the other end of that, everything settled down once more.
I feel a bit like I’m in a patch like that lately… it probably doesn’t help that I’ve had this cold, and the cold probably hasn’t been helped by any extra stressors in my life.
Nor does it probably help that I’m not very good about talking about my own issues with people (I’m much better at reflecting back to them and making them do the talking), or that some of th things, even if I could talk about them, they’re not really work-topics… and I’m not at all close to anyone at work…
Yes, I am rambling, but it tends to help me sort things out, even if the outside world can’t quite see how I got to that point.
1Kelkel
wrote on 8 April 2008 at 10:03
Why don’t you get a therapist for working through stresses? They’re not just for lunatics. :p I recommend them for everyone, just for a spit-shine if nothing else. They’re not just for talking to, they’re good for getting strategies for dealing with stress.
Most people seem to have problems verbalising things when they’re stressed, it’s not exactly a common natural tallent. But you can improve this area with the right tools.
2Fiona
wrote on 9 April 2008 at 21:17
I guess I just feel like I’m being a tad “emon kid” at times and should jsut tell myself to get over it.
*shrugs*
(I’m not dismissing your suggestion, I’m taking it on board to sit into the back of my mind for another day. I feel quite good right now. *rolls eyes*)
Thanks Kel
3Kelkel
wrote on 11 April 2008 at 16:43
Emos celebrate their misery. A functional human being digests their down moments and doesn’t put themselves down for being down, because feelings are human.
The problem we all have is our blurred perceptions of sensitivity and weakness. We so often view the two as the same, when actually they are very different things. To feel negative things is to have lost control of our brains.
Personally I think it takes a greater strength and courage to work with your feelings rather than against them. I know which one I’ve found easier in my time.
Damn your blog entires activating my brain. I’m on holidays damnit!
4Fiona
wrote on 13 April 2008 at 18:13
Sorry Kel, shouldn’t make you think too much ;)