Are you okay? (2. One month. It's not right) - the little lioness

Are you okay? (2. One month. It’s not right)

I just found out about the second suicide of an acquaintance in the space of about a month.

it’s not right.

By all accounts, they should be happy successful you people.

But that Black Dog just keeps coming back.

At work, I’ve bought RUOK DAY cups and have sent emails to raise awareness.

I sent an email.

Talking about my colleague in Canberra who took her life last month.

That i KNOW that, while you might brush off an offer for help initially, it’s nice to know that people are there. For when you ARE ready for support and help.

Please.

Check in with friends and family.

And workmates.

Don’t just keep it superficial.

Let them know you’re there.

Even if it’s not the “right” time.

It opens a door.

Please.

Take care of each other.

http://www.lifeline.org.au/ – 13 11 14

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  1. September 6, 2011 at 8:55 pm

    Hi Fiona, sorry to hear about the bad news. It is pretty sobering to know how common suicide is and the depression that often triggers it. I think the media dampens reporting on the assumption that over reporting will attract copy cat activity. I’m not so sure. As a student I was taught it’s better to ask if someone is having suicidal thoughts and if they are to refer them quickly for specialist care. I think the RUOkay campaign is great and builds on that premise that friends and acquaintances need to ask after each other.

    • September 6, 2011 at 9:00 pm

      Thanks hun.

      I’m glad that I had a good GP in Canberra. Yes, she didn’t bulk bill. Buit she took the time to probe beneath my all too often physical illness. The illness was real but the stress DID NOT help at all.

      I was frustrated by the campain last year. Stressed by it. As I was in a bad place, ani f a little fearful of being caught out.

      But I know what it can mean even if you’re not ready, to have a workmate ay that they care, and then you know that when you ARE ready, they may be willing to listen.

  2. September 7, 2011 at 8:16 am

    oh sweetie. It is hearing stories like this that truly break my heart. Such sad sad news – that has a profound effect on so many people :(

  3. September 7, 2011 at 1:35 pm

    I’m so sorry to hear about your friends and thank-you for sharing something so personal. It takes nothing to check on a friend, colleague or loved one but it can make such a difference for them to know you care if they’re in a bad place.

  4. September 7, 2011 at 9:04 pm

    Hi Fiona. Just wanted to say thanks for popping by my site today and its great to get to know yet another person supporting the RUOK initiative.

    Take extra care of yourself :)

  5. September 8, 2011 at 7:28 am

    So sorry for your loss; suicide and the inevitable “why’s?” are possibly the hardest thing to comprehend to those left behind x

  6. September 8, 2011 at 11:01 am

    Hi Fiona
    I am so sorry about the bad news. It must be devastating for you. I hope you are okay?
    Thanks for suppoting RUOK? Day by buying the cups, sending the email and writing this post.

  7. September 9, 2011 at 7:19 am

    Too sad. Not only for a life cut short, but that people think they have no one, absolutely no one, that they can turn to in a time of need.

  8. September 9, 2011 at 9:01 am

    Oh Fi, I’m so so sorry. Any in a month is too many. xxx

  9. September 9, 2011 at 9:07 am

    So sorry to hear. I thank Australia for having causes like the RUOK day. In the Philippines, we used to just bury our heads in the sand about these kinds of things :(

  10. September 9, 2011 at 10:31 am

    Hi Fiona

    Thank you for this. I will check in with some people who are close to me.
    Are you okay?

    Lina

  11. September 9, 2011 at 11:00 am

    Hi Fiona,

    I’m not in Australia, and I’ve never experienced RUOK day. It’s certainly something I’d like to have, though, not only because of suicide, but because of depression/mental illness as a whole- all of it is taboo to talk about here. My parents don’t even want to let on to my siblings and other family members about what’s going on. Stigma much?

    I know it’s a hard time for you. I lost a good friend myself, and it gets less painful over time, but it never goes away. It will hurt, and it will hurt a lot, for a while. I’m sorry that it’s happened, and I hope that YOU are ok.

    ~Ashley~

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