Don’t be afraid of seeking someone external. Someone neutral to talk through things with. Someone who isn’t caught up in it all with you. Who is trained to give you neutral, strategic advice. Or to just be an ear. To let you know that what you think you SHOULD do actually is right. And that you CAN do it.
And if you are asking people if they’re okay, be ready that they might actually so NO. And there may be tears. It’s like that sometimes.