I phrase my question to lead you to a certain response….
Instead of “What time will I see you tonight?”
I go with
“Are you still feeling up to tonight?”
Just a slight difference.
Leading you down the path of the rejection I’m waiting for.
I get the answer I expect.
“I don’t think I’d be up there until late, maybe we’ll give it a miss this time?”
Ok. Panic time. Turn this around…
“I’ll come to you? I just want to see you, I don’t mind driving, even if it’s just to fall asleep next to you”
Something that you can’t really say no to.
So that I get my expected rejection.
But frantically turn it around.
Is this manipulation?