Finding Your Feet As A Twenty-Something Adult

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It feels like the world runs at 100 mph from the moment you leave school. After the safety and security of teenage life, we are suddenly bombarded with responsibilities and things we need to achieve for a better life.

Most of us when we leave school are pushed into doing a degree, finding ourselves a job, and we have Apartments for Sale thrown at our feet every day. The transition from child to adult never seems slow enough for us to manage, and in the blink of an eye we become a young adult trying to make their way in a huge, scary world. If you are at this stage in your life right now and wonder how you can find your feet, here are some tips.

Don’t rush into education

During our teenage years we are pulled and pushed in every which way, and both out teachers and parents push us to work for further education and get a degree as soon as we leave school. However, the important thing to remember here is that this is your life, not theirs. Although it may seem as if you have no choice but to take their advice; it is ultimately a decision which you need to make for yourself. If you genuinely don’t want to go into further education, you don’t have to. There are no rules which tell you that you have to spend 3-4 years of your life living on a campus. If you want to go straight into working for a company you totally can. In fact, the best thing you can possibly do for yourself is take the year to think things over and go travelling. Take the time to decide what you want to do with your life and make some amazing memories. When you get home, you can decide whether you want to settle in a job or go to college.

Ask questions

During this time of ours lives, we have so many things going on that we rarely get the chance to sit down and breathe. It is important to remember that your parents, friends and other family members have been through this stage in their lives too. If you ever have any doubts about what to do and how to balance your work and personal life, just ask. There is no shame in not knowing what to do, after all, you’ve never done this before. Take the time to talk to people from different backgrounds to get a view of every aspect of your life. It will allow you to make the right decisions and find where you want to be.

Stay single… for a while

There are few people in the world who are lucky enough to meet the love of their life during their school years, and if you are one of these people, lucky you! However, for the rest of us it might be better to stay away from relationships for a little while in our early twenties. These years are the defining years of our lives, and they will be the years which point us in one direction or the other. If you truly want to find your feet and discover who you really are, you need to do it alone. Although there is nothing wrong with baking a partner to share these years with, it can be just as rewarding to spend this time focusing on yourself and getting yourself ready for the rest of your life. Once you have settles in a home, have a job and have some form of stability in your life, it is the perfect time to start a relationship.


Our happiness is just as much about our physical appearance as it is about everything else. If you truly want to find who you are and live your life to the fullest, you need to be confident in your own skin. You don’t have to avoid pizza and wine for the rest of your life to be healthy, but just take some time every week to get outside and get some fresh air in your lungs. It will give you chance to reflect on the week and your success as you work up a sweat with your muscles.

Find your passion

Perhaps one of the most cheesy parts of this list is to find your passion. But honestly if you want to be totally happy and make the most of your life, you need to find something to work for. Think about everything you enjoy doing, and think about the things which you care about the most. Using these hobbies and subjects you can figure it exactly what kind of person you want to be, and what kind of job you want to be doing for the rest of your life. If you have a passion for helping animals for example, you could join a charity, work in a nature reserve or as a vet. Once you find that driving force to wake you up every morning, you will be able to find success in a job which you enjoy.

Don’t give up

Adult life is hard. You have to find the time to balance seeing your family and friends, working, keeping fit and relaxing by yourself. It can become a stressful situation for many of us and it is tempting to run back to our parents and revoke our responsibilities. What you need to remember is that everyone else your age is struggling with this too. Adulting is not easy at all, and when you couple this with trying to find your place in the world it can feel as if you are destined to fail. You will never meet an adult who claims to have everything together, because life doesn’t work that way. You will simply pick things up along the way which will help make life that little bit easier. Just keep on with your life, look forward to the future and live every moment with energy, life and happiness.


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