It feels like the world runs at 100 mph from the moment you leave school. After the safety and security of teenage life, we are suddenly bombarded with responsibilities and things we need to achieve for a better life.
Most of us when we leave school are pushed into doing a degree, finding ourselves a job, and we have Apartments for Sale thrown at our feet every day. The transition from child to adult never seems slow enough for us to manage, and in the blink of an eye we become a young adult trying to make their way in a huge, scary world. If you are at this stage in your life right now and wonder how you can find your feet, here are some tips.
Don’t rush into education
During our teenage years we are pulled and pushed in every which way, and both out teachers and parents push us to work for further education and get a degree as soon as we leave school. However, the important thing to remember here is that this is your life, not theirs. Although it may seem as if you have no choice but to take their advice; it is ultimately a decision which you need to make for yourself. If you genuinely don’t want to go into further education, you don’t have to. There are no rules which tell you that you have to spend 3-4 years of your life living on a campus. If you want to go straight into working for a company you totally can. In fact, the best thing you can possibly do for yourself is take the year to think things over and go travelling. Take the time to decide what you want to do with your life and make some amazing memories. When you get home, you can decide whether you want to settle in a job or go to college.
During this time of ours lives, we have so many things going on that we rarely get the chance to sit down and breathe. It is important to remember that your parents, friends and other family members have been through this stage in their lives too. If you ever have any doubts about what to do and how to balance your work and personal life, just ask. There is no shame in not knowing what to do, after all, you’ve never done this before. Take the time to talk to people from different backgrounds to get a view of every aspect of your life. It will allow you to make the right decisions and find where you want to be.
Stay single… for a while
There are few people in the world who are lucky enough to meet the love of their life during their school years, and if you are one of these people, lucky you! However, for the rest of us it might be better to stay away from relationships for a little while in our early twenties. These years are the defining years of our lives, and they will be the years which point us in one direction or the other. If you truly want to find your feet and discover who you really are, you need to do it alone. Although there is nothing wrong with baking a partner to share these years with, it can be just as rewarding to spend this time focusing on yourself and getting yourself ready for the rest of your life. Once you have settles in a home, have a job and have some form of stability in your life, it is the perfect time to start a relationship.
Our happiness is just as much about our physical appearance as it is about everything else. If you truly want to find who you are and live your life to the fullest, you need to be confident in your own skin. You don’t have to avoid pizza and wine for the rest of your life to be healthy, but just take some time every week to get outside and get some fresh air in your lungs. It will give you chance to reflect on the week and your success as you work up a sweat with your muscles.
Find your passion
Perhaps one of the most cheesy parts of this list is to find your passion. But honestly if you want to be totally happy and make the most of your life, you need to find something to work for. Think about everything you enjoy doing, and think about the things which you care about the most. Using these hobbies and subjects you can figure it exactly what kind of person you want to be, and what kind of job you want to be doing for the rest of your life. If you have a passion for helping animals for example, you could join a charity, work in a nature reserve or as a vet. Once you find that driving force to wake you up every morning, you will be able to find success in a job which you enjoy.
Don’t give up
Adult life is hard. You have to find the time to balance seeing your family and friends, working, keeping fit and relaxing by yourself. It can become a stressful situation for many of us and it is tempting to run back to our parents and revoke our responsibilities. What you need to remember is that everyone else your age is struggling with this too. Adulting is not easy at all, and when you couple this with trying to find your place in the world it can feel as if you are destined to fail. You will never meet an adult who claims to have everything together, because life doesn’t work that way. You will simply pick things up along the way which will help make life that little bit easier. Just keep on with your life, look forward to the future and live every moment with energy, life and happiness.
This is a guest post from ActionAid. I have not received payment for this post
Women in developing countries face many challenges – low social status, poverty, and little to no formal education to name a few. Even today, women in those countries do not enjoy the rights that we take for granted. Charities like ActionAid aim not only to give them a voice, but also to let them take charge of their lives.
Fighting sexual violence
The difference in physical power between men and women, traditional cultural roles and sometimes legislation make women vulnerable to sexual violence. Women often find it hard to resist unwanted sexual demands, to demand protected sex in order to protect themselves from HIV infections and to fight traditional practices such as Female Genital Mutilation.
To address these issues, ActionAid provides safe and supportive forums for girls to discuss sensitive issues such as instances of violence that are committed against them. The organisation also fights legislation that further victimises the victim of sexual assault, such as the Hudood Ordinance in Pakistan. ActionAid also makes religious and traditional leaders aware of the dangers of practising Female Genital Mutilation.
The right to an education
Around 517 million women around the world are illiterate. As a result, they are often confined to low-skill and low-paying jobs and are denied the ability and the right to demand a better life. Families often do not consider sending daughters to school a worthy investment, as the quality of the education is often poor, or their daughters will soon be married off.
ActionAid realises that the quality of education is the first step in raising the education level among women, and is constantly working with locals to make sure governments are adequately managing the quality of education in terms of the qualifications of the teachers and the amount of resources dedicated to the education system.
Representation in the public sphere
Women are often excluded from the decision making process – whether at the household level or at the community level. In some communities, women simply assume that men will not permit them to participate in community activities which are beyond their domestic and reproductive duties. The need for women to be included in any decision-making process is particularly important, because current policies often neglect their rights and needs.
ActionAid has made recommendations to relevant governments and organisations to dedicate resources to build capacity for local women to be involved in decision making processes. The organisation has also helped communities to strengthen their local governance structure to increase women’s participation in leadership.
What you can do to help
ActionAid runs a number of campaigns and appeals year round that address the needs and rights of women. Whether you want to learn more or volunteer your time, there are a number of ways that you can help the important causes and the rights of women they champion. You can also sponsor a child to make sure they have the resources to learn and succeed – remember, every dollar makes a difference.
Author bio: Alex Smith is a freelance writer and women’s rights activist who believes that everyone can make a difference to women’s rights around the world – whether they sponsor a child or make a small one-off donation.
So, I’ve been out of work awhile, and while I’ve been mostly thinking about things like looking for a job, or getting myself mentally to a point where I can take on the world, I’ve also been thinking about other options. Study, of course. wit my over-thinking brain, is always an option. Perhaps I enroll at a TAFE, or community college for something. Perhaps another masters. Or, maybe distance courses are a good option. No face to face, lots of reading, discussion through moodle. I loved that format through the masters I did, so I should continue it. Whether formally, through a uni or TAFE course, or informally, through a skeptic/atheist bookclub!
Maybe child behaviour is an area for study for me? I did several behaviour subjects through uni both under an post- grad… plus all my work with kids with a language disorder. Or Autism. Or kids with “just” a mild intellectual disability. So much we could do for those kids language wise, if we know how, and we had the backing from our “benefactors” (private, taxes and so on) to go ahead and help these boys to make their way through both the justice system and society when we throw them back into it.
Perhaps I have a passion for social justice issues, and should channel that instead? Surely that’s better to blog about than soy lattes? :p
What do you think?
Have you ever manage to study, for study or pleasure’s sake only?