So here you are, you’ve been married to the most amazing perfect ever, your kids are growing up. But now they are begging you for a puppy. They’ve been wanting one for years, but you’ve always managed to get them something else – a fish, maybe even a hamster. But now the time has come, and you can no longer put it off, it’s time that you added a dog to your family.

This is a big step for some people, particularly if they have never had a dog before. It can also add a lot more responsibilities to a family, so it’s important that you make sure that you can look after it properly. You’ve probably heard the saying “a dog is for life, not just for Christmas”, so this means that you need to make sure that you are ready and committed to having a dog in your life. If you are, then let’s find out what the best dog is for you and your family.

What Research Should You Do Before?

Before you get a dog, it’s a good idea to do some research first. You can easily go to your local vets and ask them some questions (might be a good idea to ring them up first), or you could easily look online for more information about dogs. Things that you need to look out for though, are the different breeds, what their exercise requirements are, the grooming requirements, the temperament, and the trainability of the breed.

Once you have a good idea of what breed you are interested in, then you should make sure that you go and spend time with this breed, either by going to a dog show or going to a local breeder. A good breeder will let you interact with their dogs because they know that the dog will be with you for life, so it’s good to see how you get on. If you are going to use a breeder (instead of adopting one), then make sure you know that the breeder is legit. Do not get a dog from a puppy farm, and if you suspect that it is a puppy farm, make sure to report it.

Which Breed are more “Kid-Friendly”?

There are plenty of different breeds of dogs out there, and some are more “kid friendly” then others. The highly trainable dogs are great with kids because they are easy to please and are usually more family oriented. Don’t forget though, that a dog isn’t evil or mean if it is well looked after. Most dogs aren’t born vicious, it’s the people they are brought up with. But of course, it’s easier to get a dog that is highly trainable. So, what sort of dog would be your best bet?

You should look at the sporting group of dogs, these are dogs that are bred to work besides human. Dogs like golden retrievers, German shepherds (there are loads of different types of German shepherds by the way) and even collies are great dogs for families with kids, as they are highly trainable and great with people. Just don’t forget, if you dog is in a loving home then they will be great around others as well, so make sure you have the time to train your dog properly.

What are the Dog’s Needs?

One of the main things that you really will need to seriously think about, are what will the dog’s needs be. Of course, you will be a dedicated and loving pet owner, but every animal comes with different needs and it’s important that you can manage this. All want to be fed nutritious, healthy meals, although some will eat more than others. You will likely also need to be aware of different pain treatments for dogs, as certain breeds will be more susceptible to certain illnesses and diseases than others.

All dogs require grooming, some may need daily efforts when it comes to grooming (e.g. they might be long haired), whilst others might only need light attention. You need to know how much effort you’re willing to put into a pet before you adopt them. If you live a busy life, then get a dog which is a bit more laid back, otherwise you won’t be able to fulfil their needs. So, there you are some simple things to bear in mind if you are getting a dog. If you get a dog, then the next step is knowing how to train your dog!

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Life is full of wonderful moments. We travel to new places, meet fantastic people and fill your days with new and exciting experiences. These can be as huge as road tripping around the country, and as small as discovering a new park with friends or family. We celebrate special occasions that mark the passage of time, like birthdays, anniversaries and New Year, so that we don’t forget them. Yet so few of us actually take the time to properly document those times and experiences, and if we do it’s a handful of pictures that we stick a filter on and upload to facebook.

Here are some ways to remember all the good stuff.


And not just for facebook and insta. Get yourself a good old fashioned photo album or a scrapbook and spend time printing the photos out and describing the scene. Not only will you be reliving the moment as you’re putting the album together, but you will also be able to look back and be able to remember. You can print your photos online, or you can invest in photo paper and do it at home. It’s so simple. If you document your child’s birthdays as they grow up, they will appreciate it as much as you will.

If it’s a special occasion like a wedding or someone’s 50th, you might want to hire a photographer for the day so that you can spend more time enjoying the day and less time looking through your camera.


This concept has really revived over the last decade with the rise of bloggers. We are a species of storytellers; we love to tell people our experiences as hope they tell us theirs in return – it’s why things like facebook and twitter are so popular. Writing in a journal for our own use or online is, essentially the same, you are just letting other people read what you write if it’s online.

You can write a whole essay, small paragraphs or snippets punctuated by photos you have taken. If you are unsure about writing, then start by just making a quick recount of your day, you don’t have to include what you ate for breakfast (unless it was an amazing breakfast) just write about the parts that stood out to you and you want to remember, sites like penzu.com help you with a step by step guide in how to start journaling.


Another thing that you won’t be a stranger to is making videos; you do it on snapchat and Instagram. If something funny is happening, it’s the usual response to grab your phone and start recording it. You should also use this reflex with any lovely memories. You can upload your videos, or you can just keep them on your computer – just remember to back them up so that you don’t loose them.

You can also think about using a videographer for special occasions instead of a photographer. This will allow you to have the whole memory instead of just a snapshot. Sites like prouddaddy.com.au are perfect for those moments with your little ones. You can also think of a videographer for your wedding as well, so that you get the whole ceremony recorded forever.


Where do I start?

I’m still looking for a job. Part time, preferably. For my sanity.

I re-enrolled in uni. Master of Applied Linguistics.


Which means relearning Syntax. And how to write essays.

I still live with my parents, and my sister and her kids.

Which I’m grateful for after we nearly lost her last year.

I have a boyfriend. It’s intense and emotional and wonderful.

I’m still in twice weekly therapy.

I’m learning about me.

I’m getting there.


Some members of my family went to a workshop on Friday about having “a Borderline” in your family, and about what he world may look like from my point of view, and some safe ways for all involved to help me while not harming themselves.

One of the sets of slides I’ve been given is on the importance of setting boundaries. Knowing that I, and well anyone, will try and push those boundaries, setting them at a realistic space and being able to carry out on any consequences set. Don’t give an ultimatum that can’ be followed though!

Attached are the images if the slides in a .zip file. Email me if you want them in another format xx

Notes from BPD day (zip file)


I own the domain RishniRatnam.com, and I host my bother in law at http://www.johndee.net.au/….

But of most interest to most of you…..

I now have my sister blogging. At http://gatheringpieces.littlelioness.net/

Visit her.

Tell her she is awesome. Cos she is.

Because I want there to be a place for parents with kids with Spondylmetaphyseal Dysplasia to find each other. Even if just to look at each other and realise that there are other who have no idea how this will all turn out for them.

For a community.

For Jennie. And John. And Liam. And Ezri.

And the rest.

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